It is so much fun to see what the other person likes because that way you know what to do. Let the one dirty talking have control because then it will be interesting and pleasurable. If you even want to tell them what you want done because they will even do that to satisfy your every need.
Just find something that you like and or love and just experiment from there. You never know what you like if you do not try and if you don't like it then find something else to try. Keep the sex and love making interesting and just go for whatever you want to and if it's not for you then try something else I mean come on there's a lot of things out there to try from soft to hardcore!
It is all fun just find out what you like and what you do not like. If you like it then you'll keep doing it and doing it till you find something else you like. Then you have multiple things to try and then mix it up.